In order to have a holistic society that all people can thrive in we as a human race must learn to abandon all preconceived notions of binaries. Many systems are currently trying to abandon binary ways of thinking, for example college application processes are changing and colleges are often abandoning qualitative ways of examining candidates. Essays are becoming more of the norm and committees are taking into account many more components than just grade point average or standardized test scores. These sorts of steps are important in evaluating people based off of their entire human experience rather than through a binary lens, or superficial/man made component.
Non binary gendering is becoming more widely accepted around the world and many communities are returning to their non-binary roots similarly to India and their tradition of non-binary Hijras. This is important in deconstructing sexism and transphobia in order to appreciate each human being holistically and give every individual more than two lenses to see and experience the world in. When the world becomes accustomed to viewing people beyond the sex they were born into, we as a world can move beyond gender roles and preconceived notions of what a person’s life should look like. As people become more accepting of paths unique to any given two paths people are given throughout their lives, humans can start living complexly, how they were supposed to. We can achieve a much happier and more fulfilling society.
Within the novel Woman on the Edge of Time by Marge Piercy, the author depicts a utopian future in which everyone is happy and has diverged from gender binaries, and over simplification of the human experience in general. In her depiction women no longer even have children and all people can live as humans rather than through the lens of their gender. There is no upper and middle class divides for people to experience the world through. Choice is evident everywhere, and people are not racist, or unhappy in dead end jobs, they’re truly free because they can act beyond two options.
“All coupling, all befriending goes on between biological males, biological females, or both. That’s not a useful set of categories. We need to divvy up people by what they’re good at and bad at, strengths and weaknesses, gifts and failings.”
“That’s all you can dream about! Our dignity comes from work. Everyone raises the kids, haven’t you noticed? Romance, sex, birth, children—that’s what you fasten on. Yet that isn’t women’s business anymore. It’s everybody’s.”
On the contrary, the author depicts a dystopian future that is an exaggerated version of how society’s utopian desires surrounding gender binaries, stereotypes, and roles play out today. The women in this future are all completely made up of plastic surgery and feminine qualities, because of nothing more than gender roles and standards. The people are unhappy and live the way that they are told to. Her book is a warning, we must look beyond gender binaries and binaries as a whole in order to truly reach our individual potential and avoid the expansion of constant division and control of our bodies and lives.
“… her body seemed a cartoon of femininity, with a tiny waist, enormous sharp breasts that stuck out like the brassieres Connie herself had worn in the fifties—but the woman was not wearing a brassier. Her stomach was flat but her hips and buttocks were oversized and audaciously curved. She looked as if she could hardly walk for the extravagance of her breasts and buttocks, her thighs that collided as she shuffled a few steps.”
“Men and women haven’t changed so much,” she said… She was surprised by how cheerless that prospect seemed.”
While society is making some progress, it is important to create a world that removes all of the utopian desires that have led to the inherent control of each individual’s human experience. When removing the binary system and way of thinking, each person is free to make their own choices and we create a society that is less judgmental and hate based. All people can be happier if they can truly choose their own careers and live life in the way that they are gravitated, rather than living a life based off of societal standards of what’s “right.” When people become more complex and less reliant on societal standards, creativity can skyrocket, people can get help when they are struggling, and success can be relative to each human’s experience. In addition to being good for each individual’s mental health and experience, it can lead to a greater appreciation for other’s as well when we become more holistic and less judgmental. A broader environment of others is beneficial to everything from love, intimacy, and friendship to professional relationships and even how we interact with strangers on a day to day basis. The day we abandon a world that relies on binaries we can all truly start living.